How to Choose a Sex Toy You’ll Love – 6 Things to Consider
Posted on August 27 2018
Whether it’s your first sex toy purchase or your 100th, shopping for sex toys can be exciting and also a little nerve-wracking. How will you know if you’ll like it? Should you buy what you’re used to, or branch out and try something new?
With the literally thousands of different sex toys on the market, from wands to bullets to cock rings, your options can seem overwhelming. But there is a sex toy that’s right for you out there – probably, quite a few! We’re here to help you narrow down the selection, with 6 questions to ask yourself to choose the right toy.
1.Who’s Going to Be Using the Sex Toy?
You, of course. But just you, or you and a partner? If the latter, are you looking for couples toys you can enjoy together (like a vibrating cock ring), or a toy specifically for them to use on you?
If you’re unsure, a vibrator is always a good place to start. Not only is it one of the most popular styles of sex toy around (and there’s got to be a reason for that, right?), the good vibrations are fun whether you’re on your own or with someone else.
2.What Type of Stimulation Do You Enjoy?
Not all sex toys are designed to hit the same spots. Many are designed to be inserted into the vagina, but did you know that only 30% of women orgasm from penetration alone?
70% of women require clitoral stimulation to orgasm, so if you’re new to sex toys and don’t know where to start, we’d recommend looking for one designed for the clitoris. The best clitorial vibrator types are bullets and rabbits. Other options to look into are dildos and vibrators that are curved to hit the G-spot, nipple-stimulation toys such as clamps, and anal-stimulation toys such as butt plugs.
3.Which Materials Will Be Best?
Sex toys come in all sorts of different materials, and they all have a slightly different feel. Here are some pros and cons for the most common material types, to help you decide what’s right for you:
Silicone – silicone can be soft or very firm, but unless it’s textured it will always feel very smooth. It also warms up with your body temperature – if you want a dildo that feels like the real thing, silicone is the way to go. It’s easy to clean, and transfers vibrations without being ‘buzzy’ so makes for the best ‘ultra-quiet’ vibrators.
ABS – ABS is a hard, smooth plastic. Great when you want something rock solid, but it does mean it will sound a little louder if there are vibrations.
Glass – glass is usually only found in high-end, luxury sex toys. It looks beautiful, but of course, can be broken. Don’t choose it if you’ll be playing rough! The positives of glass are that it’s smooth, easy to clean, and like silicone, holds temperature well – you can dip it in cold or warm water for different sensations. Be aware though that extreme temperatures can cause glass to crack, as can vibrations so you won’t find glass vibrators.
Metal – metal is another hard, smooth material that can be cooled down or warmed up. And unlike glass, it’s very difficult to break it. Like ABS, it can be a little on the loud side if it’s vibrating.
And more! Ceramic, wood, marble… sex toys can be made out of all sorts of materials. But the list above covers the vast majority. Summarising, you have a few choices for adult sex toys that feel hard, but look for silicone if you want one that’s flexible.
4.How Big Do You Want It?
If you’re new to sex toys, the larger ones can seem intimidating. Experienced users probably have a good idea of what size toys they like to use, but that’s not to say you should never break out of your comfort zone and experiment with something new.
Don’t assume that bigger is always better – they do say, after all, that the best things come in small packages. From miniature bullet vibrators to life-size (or larger-than-life!) dildos, there’s something for every taste. And even the same toy type will come in multiple variations, like our 3-piece butt plug kit.
Consider also whether discretion is a concern – if you’re looking for a toy to travel with, or to hide at home, you may prefer to choose something smaller. A silicone bullet is a discreet vibrator that’s both small and quiet.
5. Does It Have Good Reviews?
Once you’ve settled on a sex toy type, it’s time to choose which brand or model you go with. No two toys will feel exactly the same, even if they look similar. Reading reviews online is a great way to find out more before you purchase.
Of course, every body’s different, and just because someone loves or dislikes a toy, it doesn’t mean you will too. But by reading lots of reviews you can get a good sense of whether people like it in general, and what the pros and cons are. Here’s a review of the DIVAINNER Ultra-Powerful Vibrator to get you started.
6.What Are You Willing to Spend?
Finally, are you after a cheap thrill, or looking to make an investment in a luxury or high-tech toy that will blow your mind?
Sex toys are available for every budget and even something a cheap sex toy can be good fun. However, ultra-low-cost products may be less effective, or be poorly made such as having raised seams on ABS plastic. Our advice is to start shopping with a figure in mind, and buy the best you can afford.
Check out the full range of DIVAINNER sex toys here, including beginner sets, couples kits, rechargeable sex toys and more.