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How to Masturbate-10 Tips for Solo Play

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Posted on August 24 2018

How to Masturbate-10 Tips for Solo Play

Masturbation is the technical term for stimulating the genitals with your hand. You can masturbate someone else, but generally when we talk about masturbation we mean doing it to yourself. Maybe alone, maybe when you’re with a partner. Both men and women do it, as well as people of all different ages, backgrounds, and relationship statuses.

Is masturbation healthy?

Yes! Masturbation is a perfectly natural, safe way to have fun and explore what you enjoy sexually. And what’s more, doing it can actually be good for you. Plenty of research has shown the health benefits of masturbation, both mental and physical, such as:

  • Better sleep
  • Better mood
  • Relieving stress
  • Relieving menstrual cramping/pain
  • Releasing sexual tension
  • Strengthening your pelvic and anal muscles

Female masturbation tips

Female masturbation is often treated as a taboo topic, but research has shown that women masturbate just as frequently as men do.

Here are the 4 most common masturbation ‘zones’ for women, and the sensations you can expect to feel for each. Though remember, everyone is different and has their own idea of what feels good to them. Experimenting is the only way to work out what you enjoy.

Clitoral

Many people use their fingers to touch their clitoris, but vibrators and other toys can also be pleasurable. When you orgasm from clitoral play, you’ll feel a tingly sensation all over.

Vaginl

You can use your fingers here too, or a sex toy for deeper penetration and a ‘fuller’ feeling. You’ll feel the orgasm deeper in your body from vaginal stimulation, and will feel throbbing waves in your vaginal wall.

Anal

Again, you can use your fingers or a sex toy for anal play. Right before orgasm, you may feel an intense need to pee. The contractions here will be felt most around your anal sphincter.

Other erogenous zones

The female body is full of erogenous zones, such as your nipples, inner thighs, neck and ears. Stroking, pinching or pulling on these areas during masturbation can lead to pleasure – try a few out and see what works for you. 

Male masturbation tips

You may know how to masturbate, but do you know the best way to masturbate? Men often ‘nail’ their technique early on and then stick to it, because it works. But changing things up can lead to a whole new world of sensations! Here are some ideas to try:

Slow down

Guys typically learn to masturbate by doing it in secret, often quickly at the fear of being discovered. This gets them into the habit of masturbating at speed, instead of taking the time to slow down and really pay attention to what feels best. Find a time when you can relax in private and explore some of the other techniques below.

Change position

Most people who masturbate have a favourite position, whether it’s lying down, standing, kneeling or sitting down. Why not try something different? Maybe you won’t like it, but maybe it will blow your mind – you won’t know until you try it.

Switch hands

Just like positions, everyone has a favourite hand that they rarely, if ever, change from. Simply swapping to the other hand can instantly change the sensation. The rhythm changes, the feeling changes – it’s like having sex with someone new!

Move your hips

Think about how you move your body, not just your hands, when you masturbate vs. when you have sex. Chances are, you move much less during masturbation. Try moving your hips to mimic how you thrust during sex.

 Explore your shaft

The head of the penis, especially the frenulum, is where most of the nerves endings are – and hence that’s the area most guys concentrate on during masturbation. But the shaft is sensitive too! Experiment with different hand-strokes, stimulating one side vs. the other, and stimulating the tip vs. the base. Remember, you have two hands, so why not use them both together?

Incorporate toys

Masturbation may be about using your hands, but that doesn’t mean you have to only do that. Some good male sex toys to try out are cock rings, male vibrators, and dildos for anal stimulation. They can make the experience so much more intense!

How to set the mood for masturbation

Films show us couples wooing each other with candles and rose petals, but setting the mood just for yourself is important too! Making sure you’re relaxed, and then turned on, is an essential part of enjoying solo sex.

Create the right atmosphere

The setting can make a big difference. Create a ‘sexy’ mood by turning down the lights, popping some relaxing music on, and maybe even lighting a scented candle. And be sure to pick a moment when you won’t be interrupted.

Start fantasizing

You can get turned on just by thinking, whether it’s remembering particularly good sex you had in the past, or imagining something you’d like to happen. The best part of fantasizing is that no one knows what you’re thinking, so let your mind wander wherever you’d like it to!

Watch or read porn

Some people struggle to get turned on by fantasizing alone. A little visual stimuli can make a big difference, so how about switching on some pornography? Reading an erotic book is an option too.

Try a new sex toy

Just the simple fact that you’re trying something new can make it exciting. Give your usual sex toys (or your fingers) a break and incorporate something new, such as a vibrator, dildo or butt plug.

 Is it okay to masturbate in a relationship?

Absolutely! The key to a great sex life is variety, and masturbation is just one more thing you can enjoy. Doing it doesn’t mean that your partner isn’t satisfying you, or that you’re ‘cheating’.

In fact, masturbating can improve the sex you have with your partner. That’s because it gives you a safe, relaxed setting to work out exactly where and how you like to be touched, which you can then communicate to the people you have sex with.

It can even be fun to masturbate with a partner. Letting them watch can be arousing for both of you, plus masturbating together is a way to be sexual without any risk of pregnancy or STDs.

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